MATCHLESS MARCH WELCOMING APRIL

I believe your week has been good so far. The month of March was awesome, in all the special events that occurred only women were celebrated twice internationally, the International women’s Day and Mother’s Day. 

Thank God for the life of every woman out there and their contributions to humanity especially the Christian women bloggers who through their platforms has created positive change, self-awareness and individual identity in Christ, an understanding of the place of a woman in the Christian journey and the world at large.  

I cannot forget to mention a surprise email that I received on the 18th of March from Feedpost that ‘Spicesofwomanhood’ was enlisted and featured as one of the Top 100 Christian Women blogs 2021. This was mind-blowing and I am honoured to be on that list. I officially launched my blog in March 2020, during the first COVID 19 lockdown. Evers since I have been working on it, though at some point after 4 months I felt I should stop because there was no visitor yet something within told me to keep going, and I thank God I did not stop, I trusted God that He will bring the visitors that the blog will benefit from the blog. I was glad when I received a message from a visitor that one of my articles opened her eyes and made her rise from her corner, and I have seen more visitors afterwards.

Blogging is not just a hobby is a passion and a calling that creates a community based on making a difference. Before I started, I love visiting blogs and I still do. I look forward to meeting more bloggers in the future, more visitors, and the continuous growth of my blog. I am grateful to God that I could be found in this short time. Thank you to Feedpost, they have indeed Spiced up my blog. 

To all the visitors your contributions and comments are all appreciated. It is my earnest desire to keep you satisfied within this platform. Thank you for making this blog one to be reckoned with, my success is your success, your satisfaction and inspiration is my priority. 

Thank God we matched the right things in March” Ernest AgyemangAs we said goodbye to the winter and welcomed the early morning sun in March, I believe April will be better. Let us welcome it with open arms. It is coming with lots of victories, and opportunities, take your position with determination and focus, there is no stopping you if you carry a vision, set a goal plan, and let it guide you this month, be encouraged and do not lose your will power.

As we prepare to celebrate Easter, which represents the death and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ, may you resurrect from any pit you see yourself and rise like the morning. See you at the top. 

HAPPY NEW MONTH, APRIL

Dream Big and think right

No More Limits

People say dream big, but I say think right and dream big. This is because most people dream big with greed and the desire to show off as their goal. I think for someone to dream big, you need to have the right intentions/motives and right actions, then start from where you are(small) with the little you have and patiently walk through the journey, you keep topping up your strength and resources while on the job. Do not just dream big without positive actions in place, this is what leads people to desire something and instead of acting on their dreams they start grabbing other people’s possession due to a lack of patience.

To dream big in a positive manner, you need to have patience, allow yourself to work from the scratch, let your dream or growth follow due process. Do not be in a hurry to actualize your dreams else you will stall. Do not be in a rush to acquire quick wealth that will not last.

You do not need the whole world to start. A day begins a story.  “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” — Zig Ziglar

Stop the excuses and complaints, start with what is available to you. There is this young man, he graduated from university and he couldn’t get a job, with the little in his hands he started street hawking( clothes) on all the busy roads in the town, people got to know him and he also saved up for a small wheelie truck that he pushes around with the clothes hanging on the truck, the last time he was seen was in a rented shop, and he does not have just one shop but 3 boutiques to his name.  All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence”. Martin Luther King. There is dignity in an honest business no matter how dirty or small. 

The fact is that people are clueless about the amount of strength and capabilities they carry because they are yet to activate those dormant abilities. So, stop doubting, you can never know a thing until you give it a try. God knows what you can do, that is why He gave you such abilities. You need to put them to good use. You are the only one that can bring yourself out and rise above those doubts and insecurities around you. The bible says“Ask and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you” Mathew 7:7. 

You can climb that ladder progressively to the top. Stop dreaming without action, dream with an action plan in place and follow up your dream until it is actualized. You do not need all the knowledge; you will learn as you go on in the journey and develop the skills along the way. All you need is will-power, the right mind, and basic knowledge.

Keep digging until you strike gold until you hit the target, do not rush it, it is an endurance walk, however, always know when to rest. 

So, enough of dreaming for quick wealth and success, it is good if it is legal and rightly achieved, but most times it is not authentic. You must believe in your dreams by putting actions in place to reaching that goal. And have confidence in God and yourself. “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus” Philippians 1:6.  

Your beginning may not be perfect because you do not need to be perfect to start. If you are that perfect, I do not think you will be where you are now. The reason why we go into things most times being imperfect is that it is meant to groom us and make us come out perfect while on the job. God does not call the equipped, He equips the called. “For you see your calling, brethren, that not many wise according to the flesh, not many mighty, not many noble, are called. But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise, and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty; And base things of the world, and things which are despised, hath God chosen, yea, and things which are not, to bring to nought things that are: That no flesh should glory in his presence. But of him are ye in Christ Jesus, who of God is made unto us wisdom, and righteousness, and sanctification, and redemption”1Corinthians 1:26-30.

It is time to leave your comfort zone. Do not get too comfortable on that table of excuses, you are inexcusable, if you doubt me check out these people: 

  • Moses: he once killed (this does not justify the act at all), he also had speech problems and as a result, he lacked the confidence to speak publicly, 
  • Abraham: he was old, and he once doubted God.
  • Rahab; was a prostitute.
  • Samaritan woman; was divorced so many times. 

In all their flaws God gave them a second chance and used them to fulfill their purpose.

To achieve your dreams, you need to be disciplined in character and words. You need no one’s approval but God’s and your will-power

Do not look at how successful people are and compare yourself with their success, only look at their success as a tool to benchmark your success. You do not need to be competitive, do your thing, and walk your success story distinctively and you will be glad you did.

WOMEN’S DAY SHOUT OUT

A hearty congratulations to all the women out there, on their efforts, pursuits, and contributions in making the world a better place. Always know that you are fearfully and wonderfully designed.

You are smart, beautiful, and stronger than you can imagine.

You are brave relentless and loaded with great potentials.

Just know that wherever you see yourself today, high or low, it is not the least of your achievements. There is more in store for you, more grounds to cover, so it’s time to step on it girl.

Do not underestimate who you are and the grace bestowed on you as a woman, there is something special about you as a woman.

It is important to understand that you carry a womb that has the potential to bring forth life, not just human life, but whatever seed that is placed in your hand should not die, you have the potential to bring that seed to life.

Do not let your gifts, talents, or potentials waste, you have to deliver, though it may come with some struggles, the grace you carry can handle it.

Give that gift a voice, break all possible limitations including those from your past, do not let them stop you.

Do not let your limitations be your downfall make them your spotlight…..
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WOMEN’S DAY SHOUT OUT

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Courtship, Dating, Proposal.

What is the Difference?

What to do, and what not to do.

Courtship is the period when a man tries to woo a woman with the intention of marriage while dating on the other hand does not have marriage as a goal

Courtship has one singular motive which is to find a spouse, confirm compatibility and will of God. It is the next level of dating. It officially starts when a proposal is made, and you both decide to take things seriously. It involves knowing and discussing future goals and prospects, visions, values, and motives. At this point, both families are officially aware of the relationship.

Dating could be a social hangout with no strings attached. However, it is also tricky here, because indulge in unacceptable behaviour hence, they

hide the relationship from their parents.

In dating most individuals get deceived thinking they are courting while it is a mere friendship, at the end of the day someone assumes they have been disappointed with the feeling of being used and dumped when the other person moves on to another relationship. This happens when a relationship is not defined from the beginning, like I said in my previous video, that every relationship needs to be defined from the very start to avoid waste of time, energy and resources, and to maintain boundaries.

So, Courtship has a specific end from the start while dating has no clear purpose or intention.

Courtship takes away confusions like: what are we? what do you want from me? are we friends or is there more to this?  Courtship and everything that happens in the process is and should be intentional.

According to Nona Jones,

Dating is like a comma whereas courting is like a period.

Courting vs dating, 2008.

In dating marriage is not discussed, yet they relate as though they are married couples, everything obtainable in marriage plays out even though they are not married. Those involved in dating are afraid of commitment, most of them do not care about the future of the relationship, and most times if it comes up in their discussion, it leads to fights and arguments.

The question is, why act married if indeed you are not, and not ready for commitment? Therefore, people have kids out of wedlock, children experiencing the trauma of broken homes, and single parenting which takes its toll on the children due to the choices the adult or parents made.

It is unfortunate that today courtship has been pushed to the back and replaced with dating. But a true Christian believer believes and upholds courtship which is the rightful part and process to a godly relationship that materializes into marriage.

Courtship is not popular in the society of today because they choose to play in darkness and secrets. And because it allows parents involvement(aware), it mostly results in marriage and sexual intimacy is not allowed, the process is monitored to avoid going beyond boundaries, and so all these principles, couples of this generation are opposed to them. They just want to make their own decision without parental input of any kind. They believe sexual intimacy is a relief activity, so they engage in it at will in any kind of relationship.

In courtship the moment a relationship is established, parents are informed and allowed to give their opinions or inputs if needed. Proverbs 15:22 “Without counsel, plans go awry, but in the multitude of counselors they are established”.  Family involvement in courtship gives you the opportunity to know who you are dealing with and the family standards, it could also be an avenue or a door that opens your eyes to things you do not know about your significant other. You do not want to realize later that you have dived into an ocean that you possibly cannot swim in.

In courtship, commitment precedes intimacy, unlike worldly dating where intimacy comes before commitment. So, which one is better? Proverbs 4:23 “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life” This scripture is important in every relationship as it helps us no to make the mistake of calling black, white, i.e., choosing the wrong person, and to look beyond the physical attributes of that person.

I will say dating simply means testing food. It is a game, and you cannot play games with a lifetime decision or event.

IMPORTANT FACTS TO NOTE:

  • Not all courtship ends in marriage.
  • A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.
  • Genuine friendship is the foundation of a good and godly relationship.
  • Make your friendship strong and genuine.
  • Dating is a trial-and-error process.
  • Shun “leading one another to avoid unnecessary disappointment.
  • Courtship/dating is not marriage.
  • Do not put yourself in a position that you will be responding to your flesh instead of the Spirit of God.
  • Do not commit yourself to someone who is not ready to make a real commitment, it is risky.
  • Do not force yourself or anyone to commit to the relationship, it must be willful, if not, then it is not genuine.
  • Do not prioritize love alone, there are other things to consider as well to complement love.
  • When a proposal is made, do not let your guards down, because the proposal does not mean married,
  • Not all Proposals end in tying the knot(marriage),
  • Be watchful, some proposals are just a trap from the pit of hell or for the other person to get their desires or satisfaction.

When you get into a car, you must have a destination or direction of where you are going, else you roam, burning your fuel for nothing and at the end of the day, nothing is achieved. So, do not waste your precious time in a fruitless drive, not with a lifetime or lifelong things like this.

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WHAT TO DO AFTER YOU GOT A PROPOSAL:

  • Pray and seek the face of God to know if it is His Will, before saying yes or no.
  • Give it time for reflection.
  • Do not be haste to say yes.
  • After confirming your answer, keep praying and watch.
  • Make sure to give your answer at the right time, to avoid wasting the other person’s time.

Hopefully, this helps to stir your relationship wheels in the right direction. All the best in your relationship as the Lord guides your footsteps.

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A NOBLEWOMAN

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Who is she?
Where can we find her? (Proverbs 31:10)
A noblewoman is the fairest one amongst all other women, and she does noble things. she is a full spiced woman whose strength is rested in the Lord. she is a person of her words and very firm in what she believes in. when she speaks she adds value and impacts with her words unto anyone listening, she knows how to bridle her tongue and how to use her words
A noblewoman does not seek recognition from anyone rather her works speak for her in the gates. she does not blow her own trumpet.
She is a beauty with a brain and full of divine wisdom(Proverbs 31:30). Never think because you are married to a priest, you are a priest, deaconess, or that you are born into a royal home qualifies you to be a noble person. It is not about your rank, career, the political or social position that makes you one.
According to Peace Odunze, author of the book Spices of womanhood ”Nobility through the accumulation of wealth is not enough to make a woman noble and virtuous, but that which comes from Christ Jesus”. A noblewoman is a vision bearer, she bears great ideas that breed greatness………..

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YOU ARE A STAR

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I am too
Always shining,
Never a dull moment.
When they look at you from a far distance, they presume you to be little, not big enough, yet from a distance you still radiate, and they don’t understand why.

Distance, rather than reduce your brightness enhances it and makes you to twinkle. ✨✨
When they look at you from a close range your brightness radiates so great that it envelopes them, impacts them and even overwhelmes them, they still don’t understand.

When they try to close there eyes so that your presence will not disturb or intimidate them, you always find a way to shine through the tiniest space or hole left beautifully. 🎇🎆
And when there is no space or hole, your reflection is still felt or seen clearly.
You cannot be silenced
You cannot be covered
You are a great influencer
Do not give anyone a reason to say or see otherwise.

Shine bright like the star you are.💖
Always Radiate your potentials
Don’t give up no matter how bad
Shine bright like a diamond✨💎

Girl, if you are reading this,
Tell yourself “You are a Star”🌟🎆
And that you will keep shining.
You are born a Star,
If you are not, make yourself one😘

Cheers
Happy Shine✨
Lots of love from💖💖

© Peace Onyebuchi

Role Model Suitability Test

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IS IT RIGHT TO SAY ” DO NOT FOLLOW ME BECAUSE I’M HUMAN, CHRIST IS OUR ROLE MODEL ONLY HIM WE SHOULD FOLLOW”

Jesus Christ is our role model, the Author and Finisher of our Faith(Hebrews 12:2).

He alone is perfect, flawless and make no errors, hence, we are to live like Him(Philippians 2:2-8). He is our perfect example of Role model.

However, that does not mean you, as a person cannot be a role model too. It’s time to stop the excuse, Jesus Christ Himself wants us to show the world, who He is, His love, kindness, care and the act of mercy through our lifestyle, the way we live our lives and character(Genesis1:27)………

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Season Greetings

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May the Christmas season fill your homes with Joy, your hearts with love, your life with laughter.

A big thank you for stopping by to read, like, share and comment on my blog.

I wish you a very Merry Christmas and a beautiful New Year. 🌲🌲🌲

I look forward to seeing you in 2021.💕💕

© Peace Onyebuchi

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF.

Build your self esteem, Know who you are and accept  ‘You’ as ‘You’  and work on your weak areas.
We all have weaknesses but don’t let it overwhelm you.
Comparing yourself makes you lose sight of who you really are.
It makes it hard for you to enjoy who you are and be fulfilled as a girl, lady, woman.
Don’t allow anyone take the wheel off your hand.
Don’t allow other people take the driver seat of your life
Don’t allow their status, position or achievements make you feel less of yourself.
You can do better.
Just build on what you already have in your hand, and source out if you have to, think yourself to be special and unique in your own way.
Resist those little voices in your head.
Tell yourself  “Yes I can do” and the Lord will crown your efforts with glory and make your “Wow” factor visible again.

Cheers
Be happy

© Peace Onybuchi

A Can Do Attitude.

Keep moving, keep pushing. “The road to success is always under construction” – Steve Harvey.

When you set your goals always remember that something or things will happen along the line that will cause redirection. There’s not always a straight line to it. Don’t stop, Develop a “can do” attitude, that drives your actions, be firm and resilient and you will get there, it’s a matter of time well utilized.

Cheers 💪 🌟